Swoon back to Serenity Part Two: How mysticism can save your life!

Meditation for Stress

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (French Philosopher)

The art of meditation through mind control

We all have some point heard that the art of meditation does help put one’s mind at ease, but do you really know that with the right form that suits you best, it can energise you, rejuvenate and open your mind to perceive life and reality quite differently than you have been accustomed to.

When I ask an average person, what is meditation? I get the most inconclusive of replies one of the most common one being, “it’s about sitting quietly and focusing on an object or closing your eyes and chanting Om to make you feel relaxed”. However obvious and logically that might sound, let me tell it’s a million light years away from the truth and the power behind meditation., when done correctly while first understanding the real intention behind it, it can change your life forever.s

What is the right way to meditate? With so many forms out there, which one is the right one for me? And finally, what will I achieve through it? These vital and frequently asked questions is what I am about to address and to which for once I hope you all would see and experience the passion and commitment I have for making this daily practice a part of my life. Once you grasp the true essence and significance to why you are doing it, it becomes extremely easy to break free from the cocoon of stress that constantly envelopes you.

The History of Meditation

In 1500 BCE, Vedantism which is the sixth orthodox school of Hindu philosophy meaning end of Vedas, reflect ideas from speculations and philosophies contained in the Upanishads (ancient Sanskrit texts that contain philosophical concepts and ideas of Hinduism that are also found in Buddhism, Jainism and Sikhism). Meditative practices date back to the Vedas of ancient India and from 6th to 5th BCE newer forms of meditation developed in Taoist China and Buddhist India. The earliest records of meditation in Buddhism in India dates back to the sutra of Pali Canon (a collection of scriptures in the Theravadan Buddhist tradition) in 1st century BCE. Vimalakirti Sutra (the Mahayana sutra) dating back to 100CE mentions forms on Zen in many passages on meditation and enlightened Wisdom. Zen emphasises rigorous self-control, meditation practice and insight into Buddha Nature (meaning the luminous mind of the Buddhas are naturally present in every sentient being)

The practice of meditation reached out the far west, in 20 BCE by Jewish philosopher Philo of Alexandria in Egypt he wrote forms of “Spiritual Exercise that involved concentration. Plotinus, famous Greek philosopher in 3rd century had developed meditative techniques which didn’t attract a positive response among Christian meditators. Saint Augustine a north African Christian theologian and philosopher experimented with Plotinus’s techniques and was unsuccessful in achieving inner peace or ecstasy.

When Buddhism entered Han China via the silk road between 1st and 2nd century CE, it was known as the Silk Road Transmission of Buddhism, wherein meditation was introduced to prominent oriental countries. During the 5th or 6th century Buddhist Monk Bodhidharma, was considered as the first transmitter of the concept of Zen to China. According to a Chinese legend it is believes that he also began the physical training of monks of the Shaolin Monastery that led to the Birth of Shaolin Kung-fu.

Not being only apparent in Buddhist and Hindu traditions, evidence reveals that meditation practices were also adapted in Judaism from prior traditional view. The Torah the book of the Jewish faith, the patriarch Issac is mentions attention “lasuach” term used to describe a meditative practice. The Hebrew Bible Tanakh clearly indicated that Judaism always professed about a meditative tradition within their faith and practices.
Meditation since time itself has proved as being a very powerful and significant form of spiritual practice in many faiths and beliefs.

The 19th century brought rise to this practice and it spread from Asia towards westerns world, where more and more are embracing this routine into their daily lives. The benefits of Meditation are endless, one acquires a sense of self awareness that enables them to become more mindful about their thoughts and actions. It relieves stress, calms the nerves, allows you to detach from illusionary uncertain worries, increases happiness, makes you think clearer de-cluttering your mind from all negativity, slows ageing, and is recommended for a healthy cardiovascular and immune health.

Perplexity of Meditation forms, Finding your comfort zone

One could easily get confused as to which form of meditation would suit them best. Just knowing the basics about them doesn’t necessarily help nor do recommendations based on everyone’s own personal experience. Meditation is not just about relaxing your mind for a few minutes to gain a sense of calmness, it’s much more than that, so it’s imperative that you need to find a technique that suits you best and master it.

We are living in a world with two realities, one conventional, what we see, feel and experience in this physical dimension that we call life. The second is the Ultimate reality, where we break through the illusions of what the world perceives as, happiness, love and success and start sensing life through our souls. The world we seek to find within our minds always existed for we are one with the universe, we are interconnected through a spiritual bond of energies that transcends to a higher consciousness. We have gotten used to switching off from it all, as our current dimensions reality vacuums us away from reaching out to the positive light that’s omnipresent, call it God or by any name that you relate to as a divine entity, but we do turn to the light when things go haywire in our life, we do something quite similar to meditation, we pray. We acknowledge a higher power, a strong positive energy force that is guiding us, strengthening us and showing us the path that leads us out of our troubles.

For me, meditation is a way of finding that positive light that’s within us, that is powerful enough to keep us focused, happy, stress free and at peace. So how did I decide which form of meditation suited me, when everyone claimed that their way was the best? I never for once let myself blindly follow something, I questioned every method, I tried and tested each of them and the meditation form that truly brought my soul to ease is that one I chose to follow.

I am going to break it down into simple layman’s terms sans the gimmicks and the branding they all come with, to make you understand one very important aspect. Meditation is a natural phenomenon that the mind, body and soul needs to stay balanced and though they might be many versions to it from many religious beliefs, it doesn’t have to be a complicated task to research and follow the doctrines of whoever is teaching their version to it. Finding peace and reaching to a state of Zen (vigilance and self-discovery) is absolutely possible when you reflect on your inner self and see the strength from within, the power of focus comes naturally without any guide whatsoever.

We all know that to properly meditate, one follows simple steps, sit in a proper upright position, and do what helps us to focus, some say focusing on an object makes us more alert and dedicated towards meditating, others say listening to music or chanting enables us to detach from our surrounding in our aim to achieve mental clarity and emotional calmness. These are the first baby steps I would ask you all to follow, initially we would need a gentle nudge to allow our mind to detach from our environment, but always remember one thing, you are not supposed to get it right the first time, the more you routinely take your time to practice, the deeper and stronger your mind adjusts and adapts to detaching itself from the illusions it’s imprisoned by.

Effectual and Positive Meditative practices and Techniques

Zen or Zazen

Practiced in monasteries and Zen temples, primarily relies on the sharpening the mind through a deep meditative form of focus. The purpose of Zen meditation is achieving vigilance and self-discovery, it is a form of spiritual awakening and when practiced dedicatedly it becomes the source of calmness in all actions of daily life such as sleeping, eating, walking working, talking and thinking becomes more beneficial as your mind is in a state of awareness in dealing with all actions mindfully. It is through the practice of Zazen is when Gautama Buddha achieved Enlightenment.


The best way to prepare yourself for Zen Meditation if you’re at home and not accessible to a Zen temple or a Monasteries that have a meditation schedule, is to find a place at home or at your work place where they are the least of distractions. Best practiced while sitting on a zafu cushion (round cushion or any comfortable cushion you can find) in lotus, back upright and head and shoulder relaxed. You can place your hands on your thighs on fold them placing the right palms over the left palm making a lotus gesture. If you have trouble sitting cross-legged, this can also be practiced while sitting on a chair, ensure your legs are slightly apart and your hands are placed on the thighs or in the lotus posture.

One can keep your eyes closed or keep them open and focus on a spot of space two of three feet front of you. The sense of nothingness should gently come into play. You begin with first focusing on your breath and your entire attention should be on the movement of your breath. Inhale slowly counting one till ten then slowly exhale counting backwards. Don’t worry if your mind gets distracted with sounds of your environment or thoughts that might arise during this. It is absolutely normal to have thoughts arise, detach from the distractive elements and focus back on your breathing, with practice you will learn to get the hang of it. The alternative way to perform Zen meditation is Shikantaza (just sitting) where you sit and observe your mind and the thoughts that arise, you will notice them pass you by and fade away. Be at the present moment in full awareness not allowing any of these thoughts and worries be of any significance. Detaching from the illusions of this dimension, letting go of ego and allowing your subconscious mind to merge with the universe is what you must achieve, this is Zen.

Practising this enables you to control every negative emotional feeling or problems that cloud our lives. Observing them from a higher more controlled consciousness allows you to deal with them more practically and logically without any stress that has been previously been bearing you down. The primary reason this is practiced is to experience complete detachment from illusionary emotions and fears of this world. Connecting with energies of the universe brings tremendous peace and raises your consciousness to an extent, where at one point in your life stress would actually be very relative and completely loses its intensity around you. That’s the true state of Zen.

Metta or Loving Kindness

This meditation practice is one my favourites, as it embraces Buddhas teaching of Unconditional Love. Buddha’s analogy for Metta is evoked by an image of a mother’s love for her new born baby. The love remains truly unconditional, regardless of the baby’s mood, the mother’s care and concern for her child would be as bountiful from the first moment of birth. Metta or Unconditional love seeks no acceptance, expectations or rewards, one loves because they have the ability to love not for emotional or spiritual gain. It will and must remain unconditional.


The sole purpose of Metta meditation is directing love towards people known and unknown to you and especially to those who have a harsh and negative impact on your life. The only way to find balance within extremely negative people is to fight it back with pure positivity. Darkness weakens through light, and unconditional love that has no ulterior motive but to impart goodness and pure positive thoughts works remarkably well against negative emotions and creates balance.

You begin with, finding a meditative posture that suits you best, deep breaths for two to three minutes. Eyes must remain closed, and then in your mind’s eye imagine energies of healing, love, forgiveness and kindness emitting from your heart chakra towards first yourself, do this for a few minutes then move on to the next most important person in your life like your mother, father, sibling, partner or a best friend. Send out these energies to them one at time imagining the waves of positive white, pink or purple light leave your heart chakra and enter into their heart chakra. Gradually move towards a neutral person, who could be your landlord, employer, neighbour or a colleague. Your main focus should remain while sending out energies that you seek no change or rewards out of this practice, you are strong emotionally and have the power to send it to those who need it the most. Then slowly move towards a difficult person in your life that causes you much distress, feel compassion, forgiveness and kindness for them and finally practice Global Metta, where you send out energies to your entire neighbourhood, city, country, the entire world and the Universe.

The results of this meditation are instantaneous and very exhilarating, it makes you feel released, relaxed as you have emotionally spiritually detoxed yourself from all negative emotions that you might have been harbouring for a while. Making this practice a routine in your daily will make you be more emotionally stronger, happier and gives you a strong sense on inner peace.

Mindfulness Meditation

Anapanasati is a Buddhist term meaning Mindfulness of breathing, said to be adapted from traditional Buddhist practice of Vipassana meaning insight into the true reality referring to the existence of impermanence, suffering and realisation of the non-self. Vipassana is a combination with Samatha, a meditation which is the practice of calming the mind done by a single pointed meditation through mindfulness of breathing. Similar in ways to Zazen meditation, Mindfulness meditation works on the principals on staying focused on the present moment, accepting and just observing to the sensations, thoughts, sounds and emotions that arise and distract. When practiced properly, one can stay in a state of mindfulness for longer periods of time during performing any daily tasks. It increases productivity, keeps your mind more alert and less distracted with irrelevant issues that normally tend to perturb our concentration and create a sense of calmness which is constant within us and no matter how long and hard our schedule might be, we won’t feel our energy drain out at the end of the day, leaving you refreshed, content and at peaceful.


This can be practiced while sitting on a cushion or on a chair, but ensure your back is upright and unsupported, hands in lotus or on your lap and don’t not tilt the head downwards. Eyes closed and pay close attention to your breath. When you inhale and exhale be aware of your every breath. When thoughts arise, sounds that would distract and bodily sensations such as itching or a mild irritation occurs, be alert and focus back onto your breathing, break through these minor distractions and soon enough after five minutes or so you would be calmer and in your comfort zone. Strengthening your mind over the external distraction gives focus to the self. You are aware of your surroundings and are in control of them as well. The present moment is the importance of this meditation, it sharpens your senses, strengthens your patience levels and controls stress. Practising this often makes your body and mind feel very differently to your environment that once seemed chaotic and complexed. You soon naturally become mindful in your daily life and any task you are out to perform, you are more attentive, perceptive, sensitive and assertive to it all, allowing you to always stay on guard and controlled through any situation that may arise, resulting is a much happier and peaceful you.

Self-Healing and Cleansing Meditation

As humans we take on a lot of negative emotions into our hearts and let it gradually disrupt our sanctity. Sometimes we can’t control our emotions by being overly sensitive and perhaps we just absorb unknowing the sadness around us that isn’t at all serving us. This is a basic a beautiful self-healing and cleansing meditation I personally do and recommend all who need a little help from the universe to keep us emotionally stronger. We take on a lot in our daily lives and times when most of us need a hug just to get through it all, is when some of us realise that we are alone. This is a wonderful way to know how strong the loving the power of the Divine light is and how strong the energies of the universe really are. Practising this form of meditation, helps tremendously during times of depression, unforeseen sadness or on days when you just need a little love.


Find a comfortable and quiet place wherever you are. Find a posture that you are most comfortable with and you can use a back support if you need one.

Close your eyes, slowly inhale counting one to ten then exhale counting backwards. After repeating this 3-4 times, continue with your breathing and in your mind, imagine beautiful white light entering your nostrils when you inhale saying the words “I ask the Divine Light to heal me” and when you slowly exhale imagine black smoke leaving your body and say “I let go of all that no longer serves me”. Repeat this for a few minutes then go back to focus on your breathing. The beautiful art of meditation is that it’s meant specifically for you to deal with your innermost issues that are hard to express sometimes to find help with. You can look to the Divine for whatever help you might seek but always remember, we are in the world to break out of samsara, asking for things of materialistic value is not the purpose or true meaning of peace but asking for balance within the stress of our unsettled lives will lead to a comfortable peaceful life. Always understand the depth of your desires and once you do, true happiness and inner peace is closer than you think.

Protecting yourself from Negative Energies

Always, always protect your Chakras after meditation. Meditation does activate your charkas opening them up which makes you susceptible to negative energies around you and especially from negative people. I would never ever recommend you to go for any kind of meditation for chakra activation this can be quite damaging to the self if the person performing it isn’t to be trusted. I would always suggest the basic Vedic forms of meditation that Buddhist have mastered the technique for, they are easy, powerful and very mentally, emotionally and physically strengthening. Protecting yourself from negative energies should be a routine we all should do, for ourselves, our children and towards our friends and families. It is extremely powerful and imperative especially after meditation, while encountering negative people, while facing negative energies from unknown entities and it also helps with children and yourself if being susceptible to nightmares.


Sit in any posture comfortably, close your eyes, deep breaths counting one to ten inhaling and exhaling. After a few moments, imagine strong and powerful Divine light, in colours of Blue, Silver or Gold emitting from the top of your head where your crown chakras is, slowly form a blanket over your entire body encapsulating you as if you were inside a golden egg. Inhale and exhale as you form more and more layers to this protective egg you’re inside. Create seven to nine layers for complete protection, using spiritual symbols, such as Om signs, Crucifixes etc, over the layers make a stronger seal. Say to yourself “I am protected with Divine Light no harm can come to me”, then slowly exit while going back into deep breaths, this should only take four to five minutes to perform. While protecting another, just imagine the person in front of you and the shield of light cover them as you would yourself. This is extremely powerful when facing any form of negativity.

Beware of bogus Baba’s!

When I first decided spirituality was my true calling, I first researched on what really spoke to my soul. Being from a Brahmin background, I grew up with Christianity and somehow, I knew for a fact I connected with all, not through my religious views but with the true nature of our significance, our souls. Compassion, kindness and unconditional Love were the qualities that make a Soul pure, true and powerful, for with these qualities one can never go wrong in life. So, with that I researched to all forms of spirituality trying to decipher the truth. Never did I blindly decided on a form of spiritual practice because it seemed to be a popular trend or because friends glorified it so. I questioned everything I came across, tried to find logic and most importantly I listened to that inner voice in me that told me if it was the truth. A very kind Buddhist Monk once told me, “all the answers you need , you will find them from within”, and that’s my advice to you, Whenever you chose to follow your heart and soul on a path of spirituality no matter what guide that you might come across that helps you on your way, always remember, the truth will find you if you stay alert, detached from illusions and gimmicks and believe that there is a greater positive force guiding and protecting us all and it would never let you falter.

The Power of the Universe is within you

They say that the Universe is made of up the same elements that are found in our bodies, we are interconnected and are truly one with it. Nature in its beauty truly remains unconditional with its benevolence no matter how badly we treat it. You cut down hundred trees the next hundred would never stop bearing fruit or give us oxygen, the energies of love are truly quantifiable. We, humans tend to disrupt our own peace without realising the consequences it has on our bodies and mind. We hold onto fears, memories and emotional pain that doesn’t serve us any longer. We don’t realise the power of the universe in within us and it would always bring us balance in our chaotic lives, if only we learn and know how to reach out and connect with it.

Believe in yourself when all feels lost, learn to never bludgeon yourself with the mistakes you make, this is life, this is how we learn. Let go of all that destroys your peace of mind and listen to that inner voice deep in your Soul that tells you it’s ok, everything will work out just fine and always remember darkness can never prevail when you believe in the light!

Happy Healing Ya’ll!!!

Part One: Swoon back to Serenity! Defying the genesis of Stress

Swoon back to Serenity! Part One: Defying the genesis of Stress


The one question I often face as a spiritualist is, how does one find inner peace in a world full of chaos that is impossible to escape? Our minds are never at ease nor does our fears that constantly tug at our hearts, that lead us down the winding path of worry. It’s no surprise that as we hope we are strong enough to face the world and it’s many turmoil’s that are perpetually testing our patience, resistance and temperament, is never at moments rest. We find time to unwind, sleep and even divert ourselves from all that destroys our inner peace, but do we really know the art of putting our minds at ease?

Are you really stressing yourselves out of serenity to a point of no control? What is it that makes us so attached to our fears of the unknown and worries that don’t necessarily exist in our current timeline? This is Samsara, no one said it was going to be easy to pass through it, but the secret of how to take control of every adversity and how to find balance within it all, does exist. That’s what we are here to learn, in this lifetime, at this very moment, when your soul seeks a moment of solace, your inner voice will guide you through it and all you need to do is, close your eyes, turn away from the dimensional illusions and listen.

The noxious sting of Stress

Stress has it’s many tentacles lurking around us, whether it’s physical or mental, the imbalance it creates disrupts our ability to wade through everyday hurdles leaving us forlorn and in most cases many of us succumb to the sinister clutches of depression. We are constantly overworking our minds over matters we can’t control, can’t foresee or wish we could achieve. Our behavioural disorders that are triggered by stress does affect our health, vitality, relationships and compromises our bodies to heart diseases and high blood pressure. What is stress exactly? What kinds of stress are there? Is it possible to control stress through holistic healing? How does it manifest within us when you really don’t wish it to be there in the first place?

They are three types of stress, Acute Stress, Chronic Stress and Episodic acute stress. Within these types they affect us individually in the form of Physical Stress, Mental and Emotional Stress and Post Traumatic Stress.

Acute Stress / Stress Response

Stress affects us all, it is how your body responds to any emotional threat or physical and mental exertion. At any moment where your minds senses danger, emotional pain or mental confusions the immediate reaction of our bodies defences system, self-manifests, stress. Which means, when we are prepared for the unexpected or are face with an immediate adversity whether emotional of physical, mentally we do not wish to accept the obvious and start to self-manifest an emotion called stress that lingers for as long as you allow it to. The truth of the matter is we never let ourselves to let go of that worry long after the situation that has caused it, no longer exist.

Stress response however, is an action where fear immediately makes you protect yourself, this immediate reflex action, is the way you stay more alert and focused in an emergency situation. Imagine yourself driving and due to an unforeseen incident, cars brakes in front of you, the fear you face works in micro seconds and relates a message to your mind to alert yourself from disaster and you slam your brakes. This happens because your nervous system responds by releasing stress hormones including adrenaline and cortisol, which alerts the body of an emergency situation, your heart beats faster, muscles tightens, breath hastens and blood pressure rises provoking your senses to sharpen.

Due to these physical reactions your strength, stamina and reaction time increases, which enables you to fight or protect yourself from danger. This being the most important form of training for warriors and soldiers around the world, where dealing with adversities gives them immense power to fight back and save themselves. Acute Stress or Stress Response, works in your favour and is your bodies way of always protecting you and also makes you stronger to face challenges that suddenly arise in your life.

Chronic Stress

When Acute stress isn’t properly treated or it continues for longer periods of time it does develop into Chronic stress. Chronic Stress is mostly triggered through a continuum of anxiety that is perpetual due to the way we sometimes cannot control the way we live. A troublesome marriage, dysfunctional family, unstable financial situation or an unsatisfactory job causes one to suffer from Chronic Stress.

When you heart and mind battle the reality of your pain, consequences it has on your health and well being becomes very alarming, if not controlled in time it can lead to heart and lung diseases, cancer, cirrhosis of the liver, accidents and even suicide. Known to also be the trigger for more serious mental illnesses like Bipolar Disorder or being a manic depressive the sudden mood change harms our energy level and ability to be clear in our thoughts and actions. This being the most sinister of stress types, as it slowly poisons your well being into an obscure state of mind that works against your inner sanctum gradually destroying you.

Episodic Acute Stress

People who are ill tempered, irritable and anxious and also labelled as pessimistic are known to suffer from Episodic Acute Stress. Finding it impossible to revamp their lifestyles to a more positive state of mind puts them in a quandary for those who suffer with this type of stress that directly effects their health. Learning to stay mental and emotionally balanced is imperative to tackle this.
Emotional and Mental Stress, Physical Stress and Port Traumatic Stress Disorder, all you need to know.

Emotional Stress: Manifests itself in us when we lose the ability to cope with an adversity that distresses us emotionally, whether it may be a quarrel with a loved one, betrayal, uncertainty of one’s emotions or death. Anger, sadness, depression and anxiety are the main triggers for this kind of stress, which reflects upon on our eating habits, sleeping patterns and the urge to find a moment of peace with placebos such as alcohol and drugs. We constantly ponder over issues that we no longer have a control over and our mind loose the ability to find logic from within.

Mental Stress or Psychological Stress: Is when one feels mental pressure and strain, be at the workplace or home. Getting de-motivated, demoralised, and mentally pressured affects the performance to one best ability causing human errors to occur in their lives. Being threatened, blackmailed or even demeaned about one’s ability to cope with a situation leads to a complete imbalance of the mind and heart making it practically impossible to perform any task properly. The reaction to being mentally stressed out makes our body vulnerable to illnesses such as heart attacks, ulcers, strokes, and depression.

Physical Stress: As we know stress affects all aspects of our lives, our emotions, our ability to think logically and also physically straining us. The body like the mind and the heart does react to stress in its own way, by showing symptoms such as, chest pain, high blood pressures, headaches, hair loss, insomnia, low energy levels, loss of sexual desire and cold sweats is just to name a few. Any kind of stress you are dealing with will directly affect your health physically, mentally or emotionally when one finds it hard to deal with it. Substance abuse, eating disorders, anxiety attacks, sex addiction, uncontrollable anger, depression and numerous health issues are synonymous with stress. Making this the most toxic disease that we all face.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PSTD): Occurs when a person is exposed to a sudden traumatic event, such as sexual assault, accidents, death, warfare or any life-threatening situations. What emerges out of this is a constant reminder of the unforeseen event through dreams, feelings and thoughts. The stigma it creates within the mind, makes the person avoid the trauma related alternations. The symptoms last around a month after the event has occurred however this can put the person of risk for self-harm and suicide.

Stress management, doing what comforts you

The hierarchy from the onset of any stress type, propels into a very unpleasant stream of mental, physical and emotional abuse our bodies have and will face. The times we live in constantly puts us on the spotlight wherein if we are not our competitive best, we lose. Sadly, no one stops to think or feel, we supress, hide, switch off and submerge further into our many ordeals, and not dealing with them as we all know poisons our body and mind. The placebo effect comes into action as we see it to be the best option in tackling our inner most apprehensions and anxieties.

The reality is most of us don’t seek help as it makes us believe it’s a sign of weakness, our ego’s do get the best of us when we refuse to reach out for help when we need it the most. The reason we do this is, definitely not because of arrogance, but a deeper reason of becoming dependent on that particular source we seek help from and if one day that we don’t find that comfort, we crumble. The heart and mind are at a perpetual battle to find a sense of logic and truth amongst it all. We need to comprehend our own fears and strengths before discarding any efforts we might make towards seeking help.

The fact remains, stress affects us all very differently and we learn to deal with it just as differently, keeping in my mind that we know, what helps us go into our secret comfort zone whenever we choose. Obviously when people around us see us struggle they reach out hoping their ways of tackling their own anguish would be the perfect way to help us.

The most important aspect of Stress Management is to first know and relate to what suits you best, though some of us need that little nudge from someone special, some seek solace in their solitude, while the rest just go back and forth in confusion and uncertainty trying to make sense of their next step in just accepting their predicaments.

Identifying the right stress management system that benefits you is imperative and to do that one must and always accept the one integral rule and that is, seeking help doesn’t show weakness, but strength and strong character. Speaking to a close friend, a therapist or just switching off from the illusions around you does and will help. Pay attention to your emotional and mental reflex action during stressful times, be in control on your body and mind. Eat healthy, get enough sleep, exercise, say no to placebos, be social by being around positive people helps us deal better with our issues and always remember give yourself a break you’re only human and it’s ok to turn away from it all for a moments peace. Not everyone can go on vacations when life gets out of control, but you can find your happy place and go there, do what relaxes your body and mind and allows you to think more logically and clearly and revives you to get back on your feet and face any adversity smiling right back at it with full confidence and inner peace.

Anti- Depressants, facts your Doctor won’t tell you

Are Anti-depressants a good option to deal with stress? This has been quite a debatable question. What are anti-depressants? Who really benefits from them the most? Do you really need them when you can’t grip over your emotions? Or If I am taking them, does that mean I am mentally ill?

Before I elaborate on these frequently asked questions let me remind you one simple but factual thing, if you are reading this article and have asked yourself these questions in the past or present let me assure you that you are Not Bonkers! Many a times while at the doctors, we are given medication that we don’t really look into as we are being assured it would make us feel better and when we start feeling more in control, we brazenly take advantage of the fact, that we accept that there was no other way to deal with the turmoil’s our way your heart and mind were battling against. But in reality, this is only a way to avoid the obvious and evade yourself from the truth of what you need to do and that is to rebuild yourself up strong and powerful in your actions, thoughts and emotions. That’s why we humans face afflictions anyway, they are meant to strengthen our spirit not weaken it, ignoring this only make you succumb more and more into obscurity.

Anti-depressants are psychiatric medications used to treat patients with depressive disorders as it alleviates symptoms, they work like mood suppressants, they help in returning the stressful mood back into a normal state artificially.

They promote the action of monoamine oxidise, a brain enzyme that helps break down neurotransmitters like serotonin. Serotonin, found in the gastrointestinal tract, blood platelets and the CNS (central nervous systems) of humans and animals is the known to the main contributors to the feeling of well being and happiness. Anti-depressants are primarily anti-anxiety medication used to treat many conditions including depression and anxiety in the long run they aren’t the solution if you are not suffering from any major clinical mental illness where no alternative medicine would help.

I personally would not recommend them as they don’t allow you to be affirmative in dealing with your issues that you aren’t strong enough to handle at that moment of time.

So, though it is believed that people should learn to deal with their anxieties and depression naturally , doctors debate the point by suggesting that we need help to regulate emotional problems though medication, the fact remains is if you don’t suffer from a major mental illness like, schizophrenia, Bipolar Disorder, Obsessive- Compulsive disorder (OCD), Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa to name a few, then your doctor urging you to take them just to help you relax and be more assertive is just as ridiculous as thinking it’s actually a good idea.

Now, here is the part where it starts to all make sense of why I am totally against Anti-depressants when you really not mentally ill but just going through life’s major ups and downs. It has been proven that any medication that involves serotonin regulation is potentially set to cause Serotonin toxicity, which mean excess of serotonin can induce mania, restlessness, agitation, insomnia and emotional lability. Monoamine oxidise inhibitors or Anti-depressants have serious side effects such as, seizures, edema, weight loss and gain, sexual dysfunction, diarrhoea, nausea, insomnia, drowsiness, fainting spells, postural hypotension and hypertension just to name a few. The doctor would at times mention these symptoms as a general information one might receive at the time of when the dosage is prescribed, but what he would fail to tell you is the seriousness of using Serotonin regulators.

My advice to you is, next time you feel you are being lured into taking anti-depressants by your doctor because medically for them it’s the appropriate thing to do, stop and question yourself, do you really need them when alternate therapies and healing techniques can help you better.

Sadly, I have noticed that people have lost the ability through the years, to deal with their emotions as our ancestors did. Were they stronger than us especially when we hear heroic stories of their life’s struggle and we come nowhere near to dealing with adversities they faced in our time. The struggle for being financially stable, have a happy home and loving family and friends remains on all of our list of having a balanced life.

But did our ancestors really know the art of staying balanced through the madness of life unlike us? Or has progressing socially and hedonistically enslave us to the illusion of a competitive life to such extremes that we have decided to forget to find inner peace as long we make it through the day unscathed and undefeated? Has Hedonism really manipulated us into to turning away from all that’s natural and pure? Is there a truly a better way to find your inner peace without stimulants and placebos? Is it really possible to swoon back to serenity?

It might surprise you to know that although we might think that we are way to rigid or powerless in our ability to focus through troubled times, its actually when you are at your emotional and vulnerable peak is when you find inner strength to move towards finding your moment of solace. Breaking through the barriers within your mind that restricts you to try something new apart from the obvious remedies is the key. Allowing yourself to let go of your inhibitions about doubting your own inner strength is what mediation will do for you.

It takes you on a journey to a very unknown realm your soul has been long craving to be in. Imagine yourself in the most crowded chaotic place you can find, then imagine everything around you loud and incoherent, then try to find one second of silence within it all. Seems impossible doesn’t it, well actually the secret is you cannot escape the chaos by acknowledging it, when you learn to realise that it’s all impermanent, illusionary and self-manifested it becomes much easier to switch off from it. There was a time when I myself couldn’t drive without smoking, I’d sit in the car first light up and then start the engine, the more traffic I faced the more I smoked to calm down my nerves.

Placebos were never a solution their addictive qualities succumb our consciousness to rise and weaken us to a point where we don’t see any logic in a little bit of perseverance to finding an alternative path that is truly reviving and healing for us. Not everyone can go on a spiritual path and switch from the third dimension like I did, but yes everyone can find their Eden and reach it while engulfed in a turbulent lifestyle. All you need to know and be aware are the fact that two realities exist. One the conventional, all that is immediate, logical and seen, the other is the Ultimate reality, that allows you to detach from all that’s unreal, impermanent, illusionary and self-created. Once you master the art of grasping the power and ability to reach beyond and perceive reality with your soul, that’s when you start to realise that all that had overpowered you to fail and doubt never really existed at all.

Part Two: Swoon back to Serenity! How mysticism can save your life!